I found or met my ego!

I always thought of myself that “I don’t have a men ego”, the truth is this…I think it is in every men on earth, it is just how “we” use it!

I am married from last 1 years and I suddenly found myself telling my wife what not to post on her facebook….!!! I surprised myself…am I a “Taliban”???  ( I did many other wrong things too…) And very soon I realized that I am slowly shifting on the wrong path…, the path I hate a path I don’t believe in, absolutely no! … a path of “Men dominated society”, where there is no space for what women feels, thing, there is no value of her ideas thoughts, perspective!

But for some reasons I keep or find myself in “teaching mode” …do this, do that….etc. Is it coming subconsciously in my mind or it is “my experience” my great fat salary against her a house wife or it is the upbringing of our society or my complete fall short of my ideology that men and women are equal. We must see and treat them as an equal persons / humans. Or should I just be satisfied because at-least I “recognize” this situation in comparison of other men?  I now have started believing that I really have to do a strong effort to unlearn things which I have subconsciously learnt. But how…where to start, I think equal partnership and equal engagement in daily home chores to start with. And reading this daily for at-least one year:

1.  Men and women are equal human beings.
2.  Women just because she has come from some “background”, she to have are ideas, thoughts, ideas, perspective to daily life and things which I must respect.
3.  No more how big your salary package or experience is, she is equal to you even if she is house wife!
4.  They do can and have right to do mistakes and learn from them.
5.  Women are expert of things and one should respect them.
6.  They are all are independent human beings and they can treat them!
7.  They can and must take their own decisions on things and one should respect them.
8.   And they have right to get “naraz” on us, yes they can.
9.   And a man is fool if he doesn’t treat her wife as a “princes”, if you think you are a “king” of your world with that ego and what not…your wife is surely a princes.
10. Give are space and change to grow, let her do something she likes to do, parse her, appreciate her; she is your soul mate

I think i need help !!!

But I am still far

I walked real far
I walked very long
I covered all the songs
But I am still far

Friends I left behind
moments I kept out of my site
I smiled for all of them
But I am still far

Destiny I still not reached
path I am walking on
I have not gave up
But I am still far

Dreams I used to saw
God I to which I pray
Have not change much
But I am still far

Things I used to see
people I do meet
they are not the same
But I am still far

Somebody made me smile
for whom I use to feel
it doesn't seams so long
but I am still far

Don't know where i will reach
who will make me laugh
optimist as i am
But i am still far

Love which I not forget
The promise I still kept
I search only for you
But I am still far

One day has to come
the day i will stand below the sky
will see you from my eyes
But i am still far

Chabi

Ek "chabi" mili payari si
uchalti, phudakti, nachati, gaati si
itrati hai phulo ke keyari si
phene huye ek challa, jese chamakti bali si

hasti hai to khul jate hai sabhi taale
roti hai to band ho jate hai sabhi darwaje
payar se raktha hu apne paas
gum ho jaati hai to nahi le pata mein saas

Kush ho gaya hai dil uske ane se
abb nahi socchata zindagi ke bandh talo ke bare mein
bandh the jo darwaze sare
aas lagi hai ki khul jayege sare

nahi rah sakta uske bina ek pal
dil karta hai saat mein use le ke kahi chal 
uski hasi hai sabse payari
muje mili hai wo hai meri chabi!

Good Design will sustain

Look at human body...god has created it,...also it is one of the most perfect design...and it survives also it has taken long period of improvement and transformation,....the idea is simple "A good design will sustain". I see around me and lots of things...and feel like "it should have been better, I walk down to my college to home and even in this distance of 2 km see lots of not so good stuff,...like the roads,..foot path, red light crossings, pedestrian crossing,...nothing is   in alignment to each other...even a simple twist can make it more functional,...Yes! the design has to be functional  otherwise it will fail to survive in this world. Take any product you use it has been design by some one, your pencil sharpener, the pen you use, the cloths use, and almost every of it has gone with some amount of transformation/development. So design is every where you can't ignore it. And how one come with a good design and another just don't....answer is "Research" the more you research, more you explore with the idea, ....you actually have to live with that idea,... Brainstorm about it,...and then you will come with the Eureka! moment...but you have to give yourself to achieve it. I learned it during my whole experience with "design" it is one of the most beautiful experience to create and I don't no why people don't enjoy it and don't want to give effort to  create "sustainable" design. They just don't have it and there are plenty of excuse...we need to change...

A good design will survive...one day design will change the world!

I have put above is part of  my conversation with a very good friend of mine. thank you.